Be True To Yourself

All to often we are drawn into the persona that a person projects of themselves, especially if they are ones we interact with online only. They can pretend to be whom ever they want to be, from the perfect slave who lives to serve her Master to a rocket scientist who was responsible for the latest launch, we take them at face value because we have no real way of knowing if what they are saying is true. We trust them to be honest with us as we are being honest with them.

When you have a preconceived idea of a person because of how they portray themselves online it makes things hard when you meet them in real time, the pretense is no longer able to be there, they have to be who they really are and if you spend time with them then their true nature comes out. This can and often is a shock as they are nothing remotely similar to what they have said they were.

All to often it is easy to become someone or something that you wish you were, this is apparent when a person has multiple profiles or user names on social sites, they 'swop' personalities when it suits them depending on who they are interacting with. A person can be a sub- a slave - a switch - hell just about anything they wish to be and along with that character they can also have the body of their dreams, the life that others can only envy and so much more.

To be true to yourself means that you are happy and content with WHO YOU REALLY ARE. I know my faults, i know my shortcomings and i also know my strengths and just who i am, that does not change. I go on certain sites and i am me, if you were to meet me in person i would still be the same, my body would still be slender, my hair shoulder length and my personality would be the same quirky, fun loving, loyal and faithful one it is now. I am who i am and that does not change because i am happy with who i am. I have no need to try to tell people i am everything they are hoping to be, i do not need to pretend to be something i am not.

All too often people do not like where they are in their lives and so they have to live a fantasy, this only works if you are not looking for more out of your life, if you are content to have only an online existence. I desire more, i deserve more and so i am who i am. The friends i have know and love me for being me, they are people i can count on in real time and they support me through all the times of stress and trouble as i support them.

Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself, who are you really ? I can ask this because the answer for my is always the same ......... i am kitten - no more - no less - just me and that is good enough for me

After The Fun

Kitten has been on a few adult sites, she has talked to many people and she has given advice when asked, always with the words, this is kittens view, rightly or wrongly this is what kitten thinks or feel, and to that end she has had many conversations with others looking to enter this life and what they think it is all about, and unfortunately, so many of them are wrong, very very wrong
This life is not 24 hour sex, it is not about being tied and used as a toy for Him/Her, and nor is it about playing games * but this unfortunately happens so many times * This life is about LIFE
There are times when you are a slave or sub, a Master or Dom that you play, you ‘scene’ but what when that is done ? What when the toys are packed away and you are going back to your daily life ? What does this life hold for you then ?
Kitten sees so many play games online, they think that because they ‘submit’ online they are cut out for this life, and nothing could be further from the truth. There are so many Doms out there who think this is a good way to play games with people, to get them to basically put on a free sex show for them, unfortunately kitten knows this from experience, and when you meet a REAL Master or Dom it confuses the heck out of new ones at time. It is not only the Masters and Doms though, on the flip side there are many who say they like the lifestyle, they are ‘submissive’ at heart but in reality they only want to play, they too get their kicks from camming for others, playing games online, how would they fair in life ? Not very well kitten thinks, as in real life things are not like that, hell no one is going to be played with 24/7 and thats when things are really telling.... can the peson you are with have nothing sexual between you for two weeks ? Can they and will they still be as struck on you if there is no play ? Will the attraction still be there after a month ? Extreme kitten knows but BDSM and this life is not all about sex, it is about people and life, and sometimes people tend to forget this in pursuit of an orgasm, yet those in this life, really into this life know that the play is such a small part of it, it is the living of this life that takes the strength many do not have.