Expectations

Many subs or slaves become interested in this life, they then find a Dom or Master and they submit, nothing wrong with that at all, the trouble and problems start when they come into this life with expectations, they have a ‘vision’ of what this life will be like, what they will receive from it and how it will fulfil their lives, unfortunately in almost 90% of those cases the expectations are very wrong.


This is a wonderful life if it is one you are suited to, and if kitten is honest it is not something for everyone, they can incorporate certain parts into their everyday lives but the actual M/s or D/s relationship beyond a scene or playing is not for everyone, this is something that needs to be recognised straight away.
There should be no expectations on a sub or slaves behalf, as if she has them then the focus is on her and not her Master, its what she wants and what she is expecting, this leads to feelings of dissatisfaction, of wanting more, of thinking she deserves better than she is receiving, these feelings are more prominent in a poly relationship especially if the slave sees another getting more attention for what ever reason.


The needs of a slave are met by a Master, BUT they are what He thinks she needs not what she thinks she deserves, there is a big difference between a need and deserving something. If a sub or slave goes into certain situations expecting things to happen in a specific way and they don’t she then suffers feelings of loss and disappointment, whose fault is that ? Not the Masters as the slave is trying to predict what is going to happen, she is building herself up for certain things that she thinks she deserves, things she think are her right as His slave and if the don’t occur then she is the one who is going to have her expectations dashed. For example, if a sub or slave is always spanked in the evening for instance and then all of a sudden the Master starts to cuddle her instead, the slave can feel a sense of disappointment if she has been looking forward to a spanking, the same as if she is cuddled in the morning and all of a sudden He does not do that, who is at fault ?


Another instance is time spent with a slave, and this is one that kitten sees all the time and one she admits to saying to Master a few times. A slave deserves time with Master, but does she ? Who is kitten to tell Master what she deserves ? kitten loves her time with Master, its kittens time when she can talk to Him, tell Him things that have been worrying her and its the time she looks forward to as it strengthens the bond between Master and kitten but this is not something kitten deserves, nor is it something she has a right to expect, it is Masters choice who He spends His time with and how He spends it, and while kitten might love the interactions, she is not calling the shots Master is, but at the same time kitten knows she can go to Master with a problem and He will help her, that is the difference between expectations and a need.


A sub and slave should know that her needs are going to be met by her Dom or Master, He will care for and protect His property, He will ensure her well being and He will be her teacher and mentor, He is not however responsible for her hopes and expectations,