Psychological Damage

I was reading a post the other day about safety and play etc. One of the sections dealt with psychological damage that can be done to a submissive during play, how pushing them during a scene can cause untold damage if they are not in the right frame of mind. This got me to thinking ........ what is psychological damage and why do people assume its only done during play scenes ? What about the damage a Dominant can and does do to a submissive during 'normal' everyday interaction ?

There are some people who enjoy humiliation play during a scene, they enjoy being degraded and called names etc DURING A SCENE as they know tht what is being said is not how the Dominant really feels towards them, but if they were to be called those names outside of the scene then the damage done to the slaves self esteem and sense of self worth would be great - that is psychological damage.

How about the promises that a Dominant makes to his submissive, and then breaks then continually, does that not also become psychological damage ? After all the submissive is supposed to trust and have faith in the Dominant so if things said and promised are continually broken or ignored then does that not lead to damage to the submissive ?

As a form of punishment some Dominants choose to ignore their subs/slaves, but what if they choose to ignore them for no reason, is that not classed as psychological damage ? After all it is a submissives wish to interact and communicate with her Dominant, its something all the posts say, communication is key and vital, so to remove that for no reason is damaging to both the submissive and the relationship.

Psychological Damage is something that is done to the mind, it can be something that happens in a scene just once or it can be repeated behavior towards a person over a length of time. Both of them leave lasting marks and unlike the marks left by a whip or a crop these take longer to heal. The trust takes longer to rebuild, the actions take longer to forget and submissives especially are living in fear of the pattern and behavior being repeated over and over ........

People say that no one can make another person feel something, be that fear, uncertainty, unworthyness, desperation etc etc but that is not true. When a person has been treated in a certain way over a period of time that behavior is leads to feeling within another person......... kick a dog everytime you see it and before long that dog will cower every time it sees you......... the same goes for a person, display certain behavior towards another and they will expect it all the time - good and bad ....... and the bad is how psychological damage is caused..........