Making Comparisons

Did you know there are over 500 blogs in blog land about this lifestyle ? Now what that means is that there are over 500 different points of view about this lifestyle, over 500 different people giving their opinions and take on any given situation. That does not include the ones that are mainly sex based, this is just the ones who write about their lives as Masters/Doms subs or slaves.

Now take a look at all your real time lifestyle friends, they also have views and opinions on how this life should be. Most of them are in relationships so they 'know' what this life is all about.

Now look at your relationship - where does it fit in to this ? Do they have children ? Are they married to each other ? Hell married to other people ? Are they in a poly or monogamous relationship ? Are you more or less than someone else ? Is their life better or worse ? Do they have more or less interactions with their owners ? Are they getting monkey sex 24/7 and your not ? Do they have more rules than you ? Are they pain sluts or do they not like pain ?

Sometimes looking at others relationships and what they have is the wrong thing to do, you are only privy to certain aspects of their lives, the bits they WANT you know about but all too often you don't get to hear about the self doubt, the arguments, the fears and insecurities that they face. You don't get to hear about their everyday lives, the cooking, cleaning,washing, ironing etc. You just get to hear about the bits they want to tell you.

When looking at others lives and comparing them we are often left with a sense of jealousy, we ask why they are living the life we want, why they are having the life we crave and then we look at our lives and if you are honest you are left with a feeling of lose, we want more, we want what we THINK others have.

But do they really have it all ? Is their life really all that much more than ours ? Are they reading the words of others and thinking the same thing ? Is their life honestly so perfect that they are living it in nirvana where everything is sunshine and roses ?

The trouble with reading or listening to others views on this life is that it is something that works for them - that does not mean it is right for us. I am a slave, i am a pain slut, so reading or listening to a sub who is not into pain is not something that would be right for me. The same goes for listening to a sub/slave who has no children, how would they be able to relate to some of the things that happen in my life ? How can someone who is only online and never been real time be relevant to what i am experiencing ? A sub/slave who is in a monogamous marriage/relationship will have different points of view and issues than i do being in a poly relationship.

There is a saying that the grass is always greener on the other side but unfortunately to get to that greener grass you need to know what path to take. Each relationship is individual, the highs and lows experienced within that are relevant only to you, there is no two exactly the same and while you can look at things from a distance and dream of what they have you will never know exactly if your dreams and their realities are actually the same.

Take a look at YOUR life and see what it contains - you might be surprised at just how many others envy YOU for what they think you have that their life is lacking. Be grateful for your life and all it contains, you will never really know if it is more or less than anyone else