Belief in Yourself

Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point - that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative - self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them. ~Jennifer James

This is a great quote and one that many people should read and take to heart.

I was talking with someone the other day in a chat room and he said i had a 'healthy' opinion of myself and while i know he was teasing as we were messing about i replied that yes i do - i know my worth, i know i am someone who is worthy of being liked/loved/respected. He was a bit surprised and asked how a slave could have such a high opinion of themselves and i replied it was because i have these opinions that i know i am the best slave for my Master that i can be.

I do not need others to give me validation, i know who and what i am, and those with whom i interact know it as well, i am a great mother, i am a trusted, loyal and fun loving obedient slave to my Master, i am a valued friend and confidant, i am a hard worker with goals and ambitions, i take pride in my appearance and that of Master, all the chores are done to the best of my ability, i am tireless in helping Him achieve His dreams and desires. All this and more go to make up the person i am and that person has value and self worth and i know exactly who and what i am.

All to often people put the blame for things that happen in their lives on other people - it is never their fault that events transpire the way they have, they look at something said/written/mentioned and automatically think its about them, this just goes to show how low their self esteem is, they are looking for an 'excuse' to react and retaliate when in actual fact there is nothing to retaliate against, it is their poor self esteem making them the victim. We teach our children to believe in themselves, to have the courage of their convictions and know they are worthy people, sometimes we forget this for ourselves.

One of the most important things for anyone and not just a slave is to have self worth, no one can give this to you, you have to give it to yourself - it does not make you a vain person, it makes you a valued person.