Thanks to the wonderful power of the internet it is now possible to share and learn more and more about any subject that you wish to learn about, from how to change the oil in your car to how to be a slave but the question i ask myself when i read some of the stuff that is written is ............ How much experience does the person writing the article i am reading really have ? Are they someone i could trust to give me good impartial advice ? Do they really know or are they just relating what they themselves have read elsewhere ?
One of the things i look for when i read things written about this lifestyle is can this person be trusted ...... now obviously i do not know this person so how can i determine if they are trustworthy ? Well one of the things i look for is other things they have written, are there inconsistency's in their writings, or do they say the same things when describing their 'adventures' in this life Is what they have written available or do they hide themselves behind private profiles and if the answer is yes then what are they scared/ashamed/worried about. Why should i trust someone who posts things behind a private profile ? This sends a red flag up to me because they are saying ' i am ashamed of what i have written but trust me anyway'
i am a slave, i live with my Master 24/7 and have been His for 18 months now, first online and then realtime for the past 9 months. During that time we have had our ups and downs, we have had periods of time when everything was sunshine and roses but we have also had the arguments and the adjustments that everyone has, i have had the jealousy and the fear and we have weathered the storms to get to the other side. When i write, i write from MY experience, things that i know about or that have happened in MY life, the highs and the lows and all the places inbetween but they are MY experiences and if i am asked for advice i will give my opinions or my suggestions if it is something i have knowledge about but i cannot advise on something i know nothing about. If you ask me the best way to communicate with your Master i will share what works for me but if you ask me how to change a tire you are out of luck as i do not know.
All too often people who have experienced this life online think they are now experts in this life,they give 'advice' to the new people who are looking at this as a way of life for themselves and allow them to move to realtime with false impressions on how it is going to be., They read things written and see the kinky pictures and decide that this is what they need to make their lives complete, and so they become experts in this life based on what they see or read because it seems like the answer to all their ailments. If the Master is poly that opens up a whole new kettle of fish in that there is little interaction between poly slaves online, all that is written is showing the poly life to be one of eternal sisterhood and all being friends together so when they all become real time they cannot shake the feelings of jealousy or inferiority which leads to more problems for them. None of this is 'experienced' online.
When you read posts/blogs/writing about this lifestyle please do yourself a favor, look at who is writing the things, are they someone with real experience, do they make all they write available, are they hiding behind closed profiles, can they relate what has happened to them impartially, have they lived in the real world or just online, does what they write change from post to post in terms of how happy/sad/miserable/elated they are, does their status change often from sub/slave/switch/Dom. Look at who is writing and not just what they have said, sometimes that is a better indication of how much experience someone has and whether they really should be giving advice.
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just a note on the privacy thing, some places such as twitter, and plurk and other social networks, facebook, myspace, well it can be more of a thing about keeping minors from reading everything.
while i agree with what you have said the point i was making was why a person would all of a sudden 'hide' what they have previously been all too willing to share with the world. That act alone tells me that they are posting things they are ashamed of or saying things they know will be looked at and questioned as being untrue
that or they got tired of having to kick the kids out. there's always reasons, some sneaky, some just because it's a matter of convenience.
i would certainly question if their lifestyle profiles were private...but if it's a site where minors can access, sometimes it's a good idea to go private, even if you didnt to it in the beginning, or maybe there were reasons for being public that no longer exist now. Never know.
that is true, people have their reasons for anything they do - but the whole point of the post was to get people to look at who was giving advice - is it someone with real experience or just 'read on the internet' experience. Does the person writing actually know first hand and if so is the advice given relevant to what you need or want to know ?
When you want to get advice would you rather get it from someone with limited experience or from someone who has years experience behind them ? I come back to the question, who would you trust more to advise you on a medical issue, a doctor or a mechanic ? The same thing applies here, who would be more able to answer your questions - a new sub with 6 months experience or an experienced one with 15 years behind them * this also leads to the type of question, why ask a sub who does not like pain about being whipped when a pain slut would be better to answer that question*
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