There is an old saying, that everything is possible - but at a price and never more true than when you are looking into this lifestyle.
Many of your friends and family will say that all they want is your happiness, that as long as you are safe and free from harm then you should live your life as you see fit, and not to worry about them as they are fine. Well kitten is here to tell you that in the majority of the cases that is so far from the truth it is laughable
When kitten moved to Master she knew the cost to herself, it was something she and she alone would have to decide, not only was she moving away from all the things that were familiar to her, her family, her friends, her work and to some extent the 'safeness' of her life but she was also moving to another country where they drive on the wrong side of the road, they speak funny and don't understand kitten when she speaks, the money is so whacky its ridiculous at times trying to work out what things cost and that is just the normal everyday living, that does not include the journey that kitten is taking just by being with Master, the things she has to learn or unlearn as the case might be.
kitten has times when all the feelings of loss are overwhelming, when all she can think of is her family and friends, her need to speak to them, see them, touch them and it is at those times kitten tends to close down a bit, the choices that were made were made by kitten and no one else, Master supports kitten but would not tell her what to do with regard to making a choice, that was something He refused to do in that He knew that the feelings that kitten gets would have been directed at Him and unfairly so as well.
People love to tell you that they only want your happiness, what they fail to tell you is they want your happiness as long as it falls in with what they want you to do and that is something kitten is finding out the hard way, but if you were to ask her does she regret her desicion then the answer would be no not in the slightest as this is how kitten needs to live, she is where she needs to be and with whom she needs to be with BUT and heres the thing, ask her again if she believes that others want her happiness in everything she does and she will proberbly answer - if it suits their purpose.
Showing posts with label freedom. Show all posts
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Tuesday, 21 July 2009
Thursday, 7 May 2009
kitten is finally home
Firstly kitten needs to apologise, she has been lax in posting on here if only for the fact she has been busy and for that she is sorry,
By now you will know that kitten is with Master, she is living with Him as His property, His slave and that is something that has been two fold for her, in one way it is like coming home, and in another way it is like leaning to live again, both coming together to make kittens life more complete.
There have been a few times over the past three weeks that kitten has had doubts, not with Master but with life situations and they have been worked on and all the fears have been discussed and a solution has been worked out, kitten is not daft enough to believe that the teething problems have been all she will face but as long as kitten has Master to talk things through with then she is sure there are no problems she cannot deal with.
When kitten got off the plane she was shaking, for so long she had heard that Master and her sister were playing her, were taking her for a fool, yet not once did kitten get that impression from Him in all her interactions, but as with all things, if you listen to something enough you will start to have doubts, well there are no doubts now, Master is all that He said He was and in some ways more.
Kitten has learnt that Master has a wicked sense of humour * usually to kittens cost * and the sound of Him laughing fills the house on a regular basis, that said, He also has a serious side that you can talk with, ask advice * something kitten is still learning to do and to be honest not doing to well at, is harder to hide what kitten is thinking or feeling though now that He is along side kitten daily*and the serious side is one which is can be depended on to give you honest unbiased opinions and advice.
Play times * not really anyone’s business but kitten knows there are still a few doubters* are wonderful, going to the beach and trying to cover a bruised ass and tits makes for an interesting outfit combination !! Why cover them up ? Because society does not readily understand this life and kitten does not want people to look at Master and judge Him, that said, the getting of the bruises is wonderful and something kitten feels is part of her, something she loves and at times needs to be able to free her mind from all the thinking she does. There is another way that kitten settles her mind, its unfortunately not for anyone else’s knowledge apart from the fact Master says kitten better not be unsettled at the mall or W/we could B/both end up in jail !! Again this is something Master knows when kitten needs and at the moment He is allowing it, while at the same time working on other methods for her to feel the safety net around her.
There is so much that kitten could and should write but where do you stop ? What do you say and not say ? All kitten can say with 100% certainty is that she is Masters kitten 24/7 and that is like coming home, to a life and a Master who completes kittens life, and that kitten can never express enough
By now you will know that kitten is with Master, she is living with Him as His property, His slave and that is something that has been two fold for her, in one way it is like coming home, and in another way it is like leaning to live again, both coming together to make kittens life more complete.
There have been a few times over the past three weeks that kitten has had doubts, not with Master but with life situations and they have been worked on and all the fears have been discussed and a solution has been worked out, kitten is not daft enough to believe that the teething problems have been all she will face but as long as kitten has Master to talk things through with then she is sure there are no problems she cannot deal with.
When kitten got off the plane she was shaking, for so long she had heard that Master and her sister were playing her, were taking her for a fool, yet not once did kitten get that impression from Him in all her interactions, but as with all things, if you listen to something enough you will start to have doubts, well there are no doubts now, Master is all that He said He was and in some ways more.
Kitten has learnt that Master has a wicked sense of humour * usually to kittens cost * and the sound of Him laughing fills the house on a regular basis, that said, He also has a serious side that you can talk with, ask advice * something kitten is still learning to do and to be honest not doing to well at, is harder to hide what kitten is thinking or feeling though now that He is along side kitten daily*and the serious side is one which is can be depended on to give you honest unbiased opinions and advice.
Play times * not really anyone’s business but kitten knows there are still a few doubters* are wonderful, going to the beach and trying to cover a bruised ass and tits makes for an interesting outfit combination !! Why cover them up ? Because society does not readily understand this life and kitten does not want people to look at Master and judge Him, that said, the getting of the bruises is wonderful and something kitten feels is part of her, something she loves and at times needs to be able to free her mind from all the thinking she does. There is another way that kitten settles her mind, its unfortunately not for anyone else’s knowledge apart from the fact Master says kitten better not be unsettled at the mall or W/we could B/both end up in jail !! Again this is something Master knows when kitten needs and at the moment He is allowing it, while at the same time working on other methods for her to feel the safety net around her.
There is so much that kitten could and should write but where do you stop ? What do you say and not say ? All kitten can say with 100% certainty is that she is Masters kitten 24/7 and that is like coming home, to a life and a Master who completes kittens life, and that kitten can never express enough
Friday, 6 March 2009
Help Needed
Kitten is appealing to all subs and slaves, she is trying to find a copy of the Masters Handbook, you know the one kitten is referring to, the ‘bible’ that her Master quotes when kitten is teasing Him and He knows she is right * and please lets not go to the who is right, as by all accounts kitten is wrong as she drives on the left, and Master is right as He drives on the right but if kitten is wrong when she is right then surely when she is on the left she is right as right is wrong, see simple kitten logic *
The reason kitten wants this book is she swears it has magic pages, as kitten knows what is on page two this week was not on page two last week, and it usually ends up with kitten owing Master something ! Now kitten not saying that Master is a cheat * kitten thinks He is at times but according to Master He can’t cheat as He is Master and they are His rules, says so in the book page three *
Kitten at this moment owes Master about a quadrillion cuddles and hugs, this she thinks is grossly unfair as His inflation rate is about a million to make up for the economy, that’s not kittens fault !!!! kitten also owes about 1,000 kisses with tongue, hhhmmmm wonder if biting is allowed ? just thinking aloud.
Kitten loves to tease Master, she loves to hear Him laugh and she loves to get Him flustered when she talks really fast as He can’t always understand what kitten is saying, ok will admit to saying slang words at times to confuse Him but its such fun !
Another thing kitten has learnt really quickly is not to try to bargain with Master, He is one smart cookie and kitten always seems to end up owing Him more and when she finally figures out where He twisted her around she will try to renegotiate * ok will take lessons in debating first* kitten thought she was smart (ish) but He leaves her standing, but not in a demeaning way, in a way that makes kitten laugh, and once she starts laughing she has lost the debate if it can be called that,
kitten means how can you have a debate with someone who says “ Its in the Masters Handbook but slaves can’t see it, its invisible ?? “
Why does kitten and Master tease each other ? Is this a sign that kitten is not a slave, that she has no respect for Him ? Is she treating Him like a boyfriend/partner/husband (god forbid on all of them ) No she is treating Master as a person, yes He is Master and apart from a few slips when kitten is hurting kitten treats Master with the respect and honour He is entitled to as her Master but at the same time kitten is not scared of Master, she knows He will never hurt her and she knows He will never punish/abuse/ridicule her and that means kitten can tease Him and she can torment Him as a person does, and it does not have to be sexually orientated, in fact the best laughs are the normal ones and as a Master He does not take offence as it is not meant in that way,
Master is a Man with a high powered job, He is always working hard and He is always helping His slaves, so why can’t kitten lighten His day for Him when she is able ? kitten talks to Master about many things, she has conversations and ideas, she asks questions and remembers things said previously, kitten is a slave yes but she is also a person Master can talk to or not talk to as the need takes, even Masters need conversations at times and not always about sex, lets face it, if that was the only topic then life would be a bit monotonous after awhile.
The reason kitten wants this book is she swears it has magic pages, as kitten knows what is on page two this week was not on page two last week, and it usually ends up with kitten owing Master something ! Now kitten not saying that Master is a cheat * kitten thinks He is at times but according to Master He can’t cheat as He is Master and they are His rules, says so in the book page three *
Kitten at this moment owes Master about a quadrillion cuddles and hugs, this she thinks is grossly unfair as His inflation rate is about a million to make up for the economy, that’s not kittens fault !!!! kitten also owes about 1,000 kisses with tongue, hhhmmmm wonder if biting is allowed ? just thinking aloud.
Kitten loves to tease Master, she loves to hear Him laugh and she loves to get Him flustered when she talks really fast as He can’t always understand what kitten is saying, ok will admit to saying slang words at times to confuse Him but its such fun !
Another thing kitten has learnt really quickly is not to try to bargain with Master, He is one smart cookie and kitten always seems to end up owing Him more and when she finally figures out where He twisted her around she will try to renegotiate * ok will take lessons in debating first* kitten thought she was smart (ish) but He leaves her standing, but not in a demeaning way, in a way that makes kitten laugh, and once she starts laughing she has lost the debate if it can be called that,
kitten means how can you have a debate with someone who says “ Its in the Masters Handbook but slaves can’t see it, its invisible ?? “
Why does kitten and Master tease each other ? Is this a sign that kitten is not a slave, that she has no respect for Him ? Is she treating Him like a boyfriend/partner/husband (god forbid on all of them ) No she is treating Master as a person, yes He is Master and apart from a few slips when kitten is hurting kitten treats Master with the respect and honour He is entitled to as her Master but at the same time kitten is not scared of Master, she knows He will never hurt her and she knows He will never punish/abuse/ridicule her and that means kitten can tease Him and she can torment Him as a person does, and it does not have to be sexually orientated, in fact the best laughs are the normal ones and as a Master He does not take offence as it is not meant in that way,
Master is a Man with a high powered job, He is always working hard and He is always helping His slaves, so why can’t kitten lighten His day for Him when she is able ? kitten talks to Master about many things, she has conversations and ideas, she asks questions and remembers things said previously, kitten is a slave yes but she is also a person Master can talk to or not talk to as the need takes, even Masters need conversations at times and not always about sex, lets face it, if that was the only topic then life would be a bit monotonous after awhile.
Friday, 30 January 2009
A Good Day
Today has been a good day, things seemed to be on an even keel, there was one point kitten felt herself fighting against herself and her thoughts but that was soon pasted over, shut away and apart from the brief moment it was allowed to escape it is now forgotten, and that is how it needs to be, it is something kitten learning to control more, and with that contol comes an uneasy peace, fragile but needed.
kitten knows there are things she needs to work out, and these things are kittens to deal with, there is no other help to be had, as the thoughts are something inside kitten and the feelings they produce are things kitten and kitten alone needs to work on, to not feel is to be dead, but to feel too much is to slowly kill yourself, there is a fine line that needs to be walked at times.
kitten was asked why she had so many negative feelings about meeting Master and that made her think, she really wants to be with Master, and if He is there all the time all well and good and if He isn't then that is good as well, kitten does not feel negative about being with Him, she is churning with excitement inside, ok the grief with family does nothing to help her she will admit but that is nothing new, and kitten is so looking forward to being with Him, she is scared though, scared she will not be good enough, or she will fail Him in some way, frightened that He will not like her once she is there, worried He will grow bored with kitten within days, nervous about whether she can look her best * or as good as she can look* for Him at all times, silly things but with the other things in kittens head they just add to the confusion and worry.
Anyone gathered by now kitten is a worrier ?
kitten is wrting a list now, a list for her, on this list are 5 things that kitten needs to do daily, they are simple things but they are things kitten needs to do, all designed to boost kittens confidence, to help her improve herself and she is going to do the list daily until she no longer needs the list as they are part of her routine, this for kitten is the first step towards dispelling some of the fears she has, in 75 days kitten will be with Master, that gives kitten 75 days to improve her views of herself, she knows it will not be easy, lol she is already expecting a set back next week when ex comes round, but kitten has her list, she will do it daily and hopefully she will not disapoint Master, god kitten really prays she doesn't, ok that was not a good thought, its gone now, put away again
kitten knows there are things she needs to work out, and these things are kittens to deal with, there is no other help to be had, as the thoughts are something inside kitten and the feelings they produce are things kitten and kitten alone needs to work on, to not feel is to be dead, but to feel too much is to slowly kill yourself, there is a fine line that needs to be walked at times.
kitten was asked why she had so many negative feelings about meeting Master and that made her think, she really wants to be with Master, and if He is there all the time all well and good and if He isn't then that is good as well, kitten does not feel negative about being with Him, she is churning with excitement inside, ok the grief with family does nothing to help her she will admit but that is nothing new, and kitten is so looking forward to being with Him, she is scared though, scared she will not be good enough, or she will fail Him in some way, frightened that He will not like her once she is there, worried He will grow bored with kitten within days, nervous about whether she can look her best * or as good as she can look* for Him at all times, silly things but with the other things in kittens head they just add to the confusion and worry.
Anyone gathered by now kitten is a worrier ?
kitten is wrting a list now, a list for her, on this list are 5 things that kitten needs to do daily, they are simple things but they are things kitten needs to do, all designed to boost kittens confidence, to help her improve herself and she is going to do the list daily until she no longer needs the list as they are part of her routine, this for kitten is the first step towards dispelling some of the fears she has, in 75 days kitten will be with Master, that gives kitten 75 days to improve her views of herself, she knows it will not be easy, lol she is already expecting a set back next week when ex comes round, but kitten has her list, she will do it daily and hopefully she will not disapoint Master, god kitten really prays she doesn't, ok that was not a good thought, its gone now, put away again
Wednesday, 28 January 2009
Sorting things out
Kitten is going to visit Master soon, so she is getting ready for the most important trip of her life so far, and she is looking at the things she thinks she might need and lol that is so funny.
Ok first in the case goes the underwear, and first out of the case is the same underwear, kitten not allowed to wear panties and bra’s so she will only need one bra for emergencies * not sure what emergency will require a bra but kitten likes to be prepared.
Next in is a bikini, ok take that out, going to the nude beach so no bikini needed there, how about a kaftan, hhmmm might take that,its sheer and lightweight, might be allowed to use that once or twice. Now for pj’s .... ok kitten knows, out they come as well, not allowed to wear them either, kitten to sleep naked beside Master with no barriers to stop Him touching what He owns when He wants to.
Now what about clothes ? kitten has jeans, and long skirts to the floor, and a few pairs of shorts, kitten does not own a dress or a short skirt, and the shorts, well kitten has them but doesn’t wear them, ok kitten taking a skirt, and jeans and the shorts are her insentive, kitten wants to loose 1 stone, then she will wear the shorts, hold on no she won’t, kitten to be naked when she is at Masters house, so guess she will not need many clothes at all really,
Packing the case will be so easy, kitten almost ready, she has her toothbrush and she has her smile, her hopes and dreams shining in her eyes she is ready, all packed to see Master, after all, what else will she ever need ?
Monday, 26 January 2009
Sometimes its better not to talk
“Talk to me, tell me what you are doing, I have a right to know and you are going to tell me “ These are the words kitten was greeted with from her daughter, seems she was not content with talking kittens passport so kitten could not go to Master * kitten got it back when daughters boyfriend found it and wondered why it was in his house* no it seems she has been going through kittens computer and is telling her father all that kitten is doing * and kitten is sure most of it is made up as kitten hasn’t done anything wrong*
Kitten is going to be with Master soon for a visit, hopefully if things go well and Master is happy with kitten it will be more but in the mean time kitten seems to be getting objections and questions, arguments and bad feelings from every angle, and to be honest, it is wearing kitten down.
There are certain things kitten does not feel her daughter needs to know, and kitten would tell her if it was her business, but as it is, she is old enough that she has her own life now, so why can kitten not be allowed the same ? kitten knows ex is not happy, lol got the bruises to prove it* kitten doesn’t think he meant to push her really but guess he got cross with kitten * but at the end of the day, he has another sub, one who he loves to flaunt in kittens face at every opportunity so why can kitten not have a Master who respects her and treats her as a Master should ?
Guess this is just another step kitten has to take to be happy, and take the steps she will, kitten has been at the receiving end of so much that now it is her turn, and to hell with those who don’t like it, after all the only one who has a say in this is Master.
Kitten is going to be with Master soon for a visit, hopefully if things go well and Master is happy with kitten it will be more but in the mean time kitten seems to be getting objections and questions, arguments and bad feelings from every angle, and to be honest, it is wearing kitten down.
There are certain things kitten does not feel her daughter needs to know, and kitten would tell her if it was her business, but as it is, she is old enough that she has her own life now, so why can kitten not be allowed the same ? kitten knows ex is not happy, lol got the bruises to prove it* kitten doesn’t think he meant to push her really but guess he got cross with kitten * but at the end of the day, he has another sub, one who he loves to flaunt in kittens face at every opportunity so why can kitten not have a Master who respects her and treats her as a Master should ?
Guess this is just another step kitten has to take to be happy, and take the steps she will, kitten has been at the receiving end of so much that now it is her turn, and to hell with those who don’t like it, after all the only one who has a say in this is Master.
Sunday, 25 January 2009
kittens Feelings
Time is moving, it is drawing slowly and slowly closer, this coming week will be a bad one for kitten as she is working long hours all week, this in turn means her time with Master will be less, not His fault, it is just how it works out, the others He owns are in the same time zone, kitten is not, so when she wants to spend time with Him it is hard for Him as others want to as well, kitten stays up until 2am her time, but this is something she does as she has a need to be with Master and this is the only way she can at the moment, this is as it is, soon she will be with Him and that in itself brings many things to kittens mind, thoughts she does not want to answer or have in her head.
What if kitten is not good enough for Master ? What if He doesn’t like kitten ? What is outside interference make things too hard for kitten to cope with ? Where will she run to ? How can she hide away inside herself if Master can actually see her face ? What can she do when things become too much for her ?
Kitten is used to dealing with her problems herself, she has been told off more than a few times by Master for not coming to Him when things were running around in her head, jumbling up and making her have more doubts, more fears, more concerns. Kitten knows she is not the most confident of people, she listens to others too much, she allows their words to break her down, its something Master is working on, He is trying to build kittens esteem, and it works for awhile, unfortunately things then take over and she crumbles, she breaks and is back where she started, only this time she is a bit further down, and the words said and things done are added to the pile she has hidden away. Kitten deals with things by shutting them away, she closes them off and unfortunately when she does that she invariably closes a bit more of herself away as well.
Kitten knows that soon she will be in Masters safety net, she will be loved and protected, she will be wanted by Master, that is all that matters, unfortunately she has to survive the coming days until she is there, and that is something she is afraid of, she really doesn’t know if she can survive
Monday, 19 January 2009
Time Drawing Closer
kitten is ashamed to admit, her feelings and thoughts got to her last night, things being done, the wrong thing said at the wrong time and yeap, kitten ran, she ran for her sanity, for her fears, and so she could not hear the next thing said, she was so scared what Master would say to her that she ran before she could hear it, and that is not acceptable.
Its been awhile since kitten ran last, she thought she was getting past that, the fear that causes her to close herself away, her need to 'regroup' and calm down, her need to leave and not listen to Master, something she knows she must do as He will never hurt her, hell He is one of the only ones that has never hurt her intentionally, and even when it was by accident, well He was as upset as kitten was, and if that doesn't show you what type of Man He is nothing will.
kitten knows her being with Master is something she craves and each day brings that time closer and closer, at the same time she knows there are problems and difficulties to be faced with others,as there are when ever a new one is added to the mix, but ultimatly it is Masters choice if kitten comes and there is nothing anyone can say or do to prevent that, all that rests on Masters shoulders, and it is His desire that kitten is there as much as it is kittens, serving a Master long distance is one thing, it is only when the real time is there can you truely feel the power of a Master, not just physical but mental and emotional as well, and many think they are prepared for a life of servitude after talking online or on the phone, sadly this is not always the case.
It has been said that kitten is a bad slave, she is sassy, a smart ass and cheeky, she is also prone to closing things inside and not sharing them, add that to her thoughts and confusion and its not wonder kitten needs a strong Master to serve, but no matter what others think of kitten it is Masters views and opinions that matter the most, and those are the ones she listens to,
kitten started to write this as a soon be with Master post, but as with all of kittens thoughts, one thing turns to another and so the thread has changed, in 87 days kitten will be with Master, just hope that is enough time for all the fears and worries, both kittens and others, to be put aside so all can learnt to accept and know that kitten has no wish to take anyone's place, kitten serves Master as Master wishes, in all ways it is always His choice what kitten does and doesn't do, she is a slave, she is Masters slave, she is Masters kitten
Its been awhile since kitten ran last, she thought she was getting past that, the fear that causes her to close herself away, her need to 'regroup' and calm down, her need to leave and not listen to Master, something she knows she must do as He will never hurt her, hell He is one of the only ones that has never hurt her intentionally, and even when it was by accident, well He was as upset as kitten was, and if that doesn't show you what type of Man He is nothing will.
kitten knows her being with Master is something she craves and each day brings that time closer and closer, at the same time she knows there are problems and difficulties to be faced with others,as there are when ever a new one is added to the mix, but ultimatly it is Masters choice if kitten comes and there is nothing anyone can say or do to prevent that, all that rests on Masters shoulders, and it is His desire that kitten is there as much as it is kittens, serving a Master long distance is one thing, it is only when the real time is there can you truely feel the power of a Master, not just physical but mental and emotional as well, and many think they are prepared for a life of servitude after talking online or on the phone, sadly this is not always the case.
It has been said that kitten is a bad slave, she is sassy, a smart ass and cheeky, she is also prone to closing things inside and not sharing them, add that to her thoughts and confusion and its not wonder kitten needs a strong Master to serve, but no matter what others think of kitten it is Masters views and opinions that matter the most, and those are the ones she listens to,
kitten started to write this as a soon be with Master post, but as with all of kittens thoughts, one thing turns to another and so the thread has changed, in 87 days kitten will be with Master, just hope that is enough time for all the fears and worries, both kittens and others, to be put aside so all can learnt to accept and know that kitten has no wish to take anyone's place, kitten serves Master as Master wishes, in all ways it is always His choice what kitten does and doesn't do, she is a slave, she is Masters slave, she is Masters kitten
Wednesday, 14 January 2009
Keys of a Slave
These are the keys of a slave
Faith... in your Master and all He does, faith in yourself to know that you are a good person and will do your best for Him always
Humility... to know that you are not perfect, not matter what you might think ultimatly you are not a perfect person
Respect.... For your Master and for your sisters but also you must have respect for yourself
Patience... You need patience to know that all things happen for a reason, you are a worthy person but at times you will be over looked and 'forgotten' about, have the patience to sit and wait until your time comes
Compassion... to know that the world does not revolve around you, your needs are not the most important ones, remove the Me, I and Mine from your vocabulary and open yourself up to feel for other people, to listen to them without it always being about you
Courage.... Have the courage to follow your dreams no matter how many times others try to discourage you or knock you down, Master is your strength, but you are strong as well
Perseverance.. to know that you will achieve your desires, no matter who stands in your way you will keep trying and trying, never give up on your dreams
Friday, 10 October 2008
Advice
So many enter this life thinking it will solve all their problems, that when they submit to a Dom or a Master then what ever they felt, thought, were would magically disappear and they would become this brand new person with no problems, things that plagued them would be erased and life will be all sunshine and roses.
SORRY WRONG !!!
This life is not the answer to all your prayers, its life and what ever problems you had before will still be there, its your Dom/Masters job to enrich your life not fix it, so if you have am image in your head of this being the thing that will fix you then kitten is sorry but you will proberbly be in for a big shock.
There are so many things that make up this life and some of those things a Dom or Master will have no knowledge of, there are certain things that a Man wil not be able to identify with and its at those times that a sub or slave will look elsewhere for information and help, so who does she turn to ?
Ideally she should turn to those within her family if her Dom or Master is poly but failing that she should turn to another who is more experienced, unfortunately the advice that might be given might not be something that you wish to hear, all to many times kitten hears of subs and slaves seeking help and then scorning the advice given, it is something that many do in all walks of life, they seek the knowledge and then adapt it so that its how they want it to be, some only view their version of the truth and this life as they want to, regardless if its right or wrong, if it doesn’t fit into their ideals then they ‘twist’ it a bit so it does fit into what they want.
Every relationship between a Dom/Master and those they own is different, no two are the same yet at the same time it is not a relationship in the traditional sense of the word, its a joining of like minded people into something they both want, to view it as a relationship and to try to convince yourself that it is a joining of hearts and souls is bound to lead to heart ache and misery for at least one of you, usually the sub or slave, therefore the advice sought and given can only be from the more experienced ones personal views, what has happened to her, what she thinks etc etc and as such it might be something that you will disregard but at the same time it is something worth thinking about.
There are no set rule books for this life, the only things that are consistent is the way a Dom/Master is addressed, the respect that is shown to the Dom/Master and others in the family, the knowledge that you are not the only one to have ever had these problems and fears and doubts, no matter what you are experiencing kitten is sure some one some where has experienced it before you and survived it.
Take heed in the fact that your feelings are just that, yours and they are often more magnified when constantly looked at, move on from that stage where you are the focus of your life, this is not about you any more but about your Dom/Master and as such your feelings, while important, are important only to you, its your choice whether you act on them or you recognise them and deal with them, there is always someone around to help you when you need it.
Tuesday, 30 September 2008
Trust
A lot of this life is taken on trust, a sub/slave HAS to have complete trust in the One that owns her, her life is in His hands and as such He has the power to either enrich that life or destroy it, by the same token a Dom or Master has to have trust in those who serve Him, indeed He cannot accept submission from someone He doesn’t trust as this makes a mockery of all this life stands for.
At the same time a sister in a poly relationship needs to have trust in others within the family unit, she needs to know that those in that family are ones that will help and support her at times of stress and not turn a bad situation into one that will benefit herself, this involves a lot of trust on both parts and this is something that is not always there.
To submit to a Poly Master is something many say they have no problem with, however when they are greeted with one of their ‘sisters’ this can soon change, personality conflicts can sometimes sour what could be a good relationship, as can jealousy and a feeling of being slighted when things are said, especially if one is more experienced than another as is often the case. There are many times when the more experienced one is not the primary slave but this by no means gives the other the right to try to dictate actions to her, if she was to open her mind to the possibility that there is a lot to be learnt from another then the whole family unit can and more often does exist in harmony, something any Dom or Master wishes for.
A Dom or Master chooses those who serve Him for many reason, it is something that in all honesty only they will ever know but He chooses those He thinks will compliment each other, especially if He has wishes for them to ‘play ‘ and engage in many sexual activities together, again this is where trust comes in, you need to know for certain that you can trust a sister who is going to be inbetween your legs as they have teeth !! All joking aside, if you do not trust then you need to look at the reasons why, sometimes others versions of the truth are just that ‘ Their’ versions and not necessarily ones that are right, and by the same token if a sub/slave is all sweetness and light all the time, chances are she is a power keg waiting to go off and if you are not careful you might just be the intended victim.
To have trust in others you first need to trust yourself, and that starts with stopping pretending, stop acting as if you are perfect, no one is, we are all human and we all have hopes, wishes and desires, kitten tends to have more faith and trust in those who don’t lie to themselves as she has a feeling they are less likely to lie to others and trust cannot be built on lies.
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